Tips for incorporating ‘conscious uncoupling’ into your split

On behalf of Peterson Stark Scott posted in Family Law on November 6, 2015.

The term “conscious uncoupling” is one that has entered the vocabulary of many over the course of the past couple of years. Though initially introduced to the world in the context of the decision of one famous couple to split, the idea behind it can be applied to any relationship that comes to an end. In short, the basic tenant of conscious uncoupling is to find a way to move forward from the split peacefully. The author of a book on the topic recently shared some of the ways couples can go about consciously uncoupling.

The first thing is to talk about matters that arise. Engaging in a conversation with your ex only to clear the air and not in an attempt to change their mind or win the disagreement, is a good way to keep an issue from growing into something bigger than it is.

Second, make the decision to not harm your ex emotionally. Because words can inflict pain, for many this will mean pausing before saying or sending a message that is being communicated in anger and cannot be taken back.

Next, when discussing your ex with others, say only nice things. Failing to keep everything positive reflects poorly on everyone, including you.

Last, change the way you think about your family unit. Generally it is better for children to have the feeling that they are a part of one large gamily as opposed to two smaller ones, and it is parents who set the stage for this.

For many, the end of a relationship is difficult emotionally. This can make it even harder to address the practical matters that need to be attended to as a result of the change in relationship status. For assistance resolving the issues that arise in conjunction with the end of a relationship, many find it beneficial to work with a family law lawyer.

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