No matter what one's reasons are for ending a marriage in British Columbia, it is never an easy process. Legal matters can be stressful, although nonconfrontational divorce methods like mediation may help. According to the Canadian Mental Health Association, feeling strong emotions during a divorce is normal. However, if they aren't managed properly, the stresses of a divorce can cause lasting mental health issues. The CMHA offers many tips on how to reduce the emotional impact of divorce, some of which are listed below.
Feelings of anger, sadness, frustration and fear are very common among men and women going through a divorce or separation. If allowed to take control, however, these feelings can lead to prolonged periods of unhappiness. One way to cope with such feelings is simply to talk to someone who is a trusted associate. Unburdening one's self can be highly therapeutic.
Parents should make sure not to burden their children with negative emotions, however. Children thrive on routine and reassurance, and it is important to remain involved with one's kids, and to keep their lives running as close to normal as possible. Still, kids should not be kept in the dark about what's going on.
It may also help to avail oneself of professional services as required. For example, seeing a counsellor may be helpful for coping with mounting emotions. A lawyer can also help a great deal during a divorce, and will keep a man or woman from becoming overwhelmed by the legal necessities of ending a marriage.
No divorce is ever easy, but there are ways of reducing the stress levels throughout the entire process. For example, opting for a nonlitigated divorce, if possible, can keep one away from the potentially arduous task of appearing in court. Mediation is one possible avenue for a reduced-stress divorce. A British Columbia family law practitioner can advise on the suitability of mediation, or another form of alternative dispute resolution.
Source: Canadian Mental Health Association, "Separation and Divorce", May 31, 2017