Decades ago, no one ever talked about a couple splitting up. Divorce was like a bad word in the 1930s and 40s and only become somewhat acceptable socially moving into the 50s. But today, British Columbia couples who make the decision that their marriages are no longer working and choose to separate or divorce are actually celebrating their new-found freedoms with aplomb.
No one may be as affected by a marital split than a child. Divorce is usually a difficult process for a British Columbia couple to go through, but it may be even more so for their children. In fact, the fallout of divorce may create behaviours in a child that usually wouldn't be typical of him or her. It may be harder for a child to concentrate on tasks, may cause a child to fidget more or create hardship when needing to manage tasks -- especially at school.
Younger couples whose marriages end may have much with which to contend, and most of that may involve their young children. But that doesn't make divorce any less easy for older British Columbia couples whose children have left the nest. More couples in their 50s and beyond are choosing to divorce, but grey divorce can come with its own set of issues.
As with most things in life making the decision to end a marriage or a common law relationship may take some planning. British Columbia married couples who have made the decision to divorce may find it helpful to have a road map of some sort as they move ahead as single individuals. Having a checklist of the things that need to be done may help the divorce process to be less complicated and less time-consuming.
Bill C-78 recently received Royal Assent in the federal parliament. The bill -- which affects British Columbia residents in the throes of divorce as well as other couples in the country -- strengthens federal family laws and also brings them into the 21st century. These are the first changes made in 20 years to three major laws affecting families.
There is one crucial clause to insert into a spousal support agreement. If the payor of spousal support in British Columbia doesn't want to continue paying a former spouse after the spouse dies, the agreement must stipulate that payments cease upon death of the payee. Although inherent in the Divorce Act is the assumption that support ends when the recipient dies, it is still best to get that in writing within the body of the support document.
Couple's marriages can break down for many reasons. Not all marriages are cut from the same cloth, and the issues that cause some British Columbia couples to divorce may be completely different from those of other couples. Divorces can be as unique as the individuals who are separating, so comparisons may actually not bode well for any couple looking to separate with the least angst possible.
A couple who was worth billions of dollars might be able to teach others how to end a marriage amicably. British Columbia residents may be aware of the recent divorce of Amazon founder Jeff Bezos and his now former wife, MacKenzie. Even with billions of dollars on the line, the couple was able to end their marriage without a bang, but rather a consensual whisper.
It is usually safe to say that couples who are ending their relationships may not see eye-to-eye on many issues. British Columbia residents who are facing divorce may be at odds on most things, but adding fuel to the fire by alienating a former partner or spouse may mean having to dig deep into a pocket to foot the cost of family court. Often, contentious issues between former spouses may involve children and not being able to agree on important points might come at a cost.
Parents who are divorcing need to reassure their children about many things, including allaying any insecurities they may have as their parents separate. When British Columbia parents make the decision to divorce, it's likely their children may take it harder than they do. Parents need to remind their kids that they will still be a part of a family and they will always be loved as always by each parent, even if they don't live under the same roof.