Younger couples whose marriages end may have much with which to contend, and most of that may involve their young children. But that doesn't make divorce any less easy for older British Columbia couples whose children have left the nest. More couples in their 50s and beyond are choosing to divorce, but grey divorce can come with its own set of issues.
As with most things in life making the decision to end a marriage or a common law relationship may take some planning. British Columbia married couples who have made the decision to divorce may find it helpful to have a road map of some sort as they move ahead as single individuals. Having a checklist of the things that need to be done may help the divorce process to be less complicated and less time-consuming.
Bill C-78 recently received Royal Assent in the federal parliament. The bill -- which affects British Columbia residents in the throes of divorce as well as other couples in the country -- strengthens federal family laws and also brings them into the 21st century. These are the first changes made in 20 years to three major laws affecting families.
There is one crucial clause to insert into a spousal support agreement. If the payor of spousal support in British Columbia doesn't want to continue paying a former spouse after the spouse dies, the agreement must stipulate that payments cease upon death of the payee. Although inherent in the Divorce Act is the assumption that support ends when the recipient dies, it is still best to get that in writing within the body of the support document.
Couple's marriages can break down for many reasons. Not all marriages are cut from the same cloth, and the issues that cause some British Columbia couples to divorce may be completely different from those of other couples. Divorces can be as unique as the individuals who are separating, so comparisons may actually not bode well for any couple looking to separate with the least angst possible.
A couple who was worth billions of dollars might be able to teach others how to end a marriage amicably. British Columbia residents may be aware of the recent divorce of Amazon founder Jeff Bezos and his now former wife, MacKenzie. Even with billions of dollars on the line, the couple was able to end their marriage without a bang, but rather a consensual whisper.
It is usually safe to say that couples who are ending their relationships may not see eye-to-eye on many issues. British Columbia residents who are facing divorce may be at odds on most things, but adding fuel to the fire by alienating a former partner or spouse may mean having to dig deep into a pocket to foot the cost of family court. Often, contentious issues between former spouses may involve children and not being able to agree on important points might come at a cost.
Parents who are divorcing need to reassure their children about many things, including allaying any insecurities they may have as their parents separate. When British Columbia parents make the decision to divorce, it's likely their children may take it harder than they do. Parents need to remind their kids that they will still be a part of a family and they will always be loved as always by each parent, even if they don't live under the same roof.
There used to be a time decades ago when no one talked about a couple separating. Those embroiled in a divorce were treated somewhat like social pariahs. Today, however, divorce is seen by many separating couples in British Columbia as a reason to celebrate rather than to hide one's head in the sand. For the most part, the negatives associated with divorce have vanished.
When one thinks about a divorcing couple, often thoughts come up with two people wanting to duke it out in the worst way possible. Divorce doesn't have to be like that, though. British Columbia couples who have decided that their marriages are no longer working can, indeed, have amicable divorces. The first step in achieving that goal is to think about how reacting negatively toward each other affects not only the person with whom they've spent much of their time, but about how treating each other badly might affect others in their family -- especially their children.